Parents respect goes both ways!

For long time now I have had a very strained relationship with my mother.  I know we are suppose to honor our parents but I do fee sometimes parents take their authoritative role too far. So much so that they kind of use it against their children. Now I am not addressing all parents but I am addressing those parents who constantly pick and pick and pick at their kids to the point that they just do not even want to speak to you because they are so irate about the fact that their parents or parent constantly provokes them to anger.  Sadly my mother is one of those parents and it is not easy dealing with her over the years. See my mother is one of those people who is so quick to get angry which is a sin.  Buy that the other problem; if I was to tell her about how she is acting she will just tell me to shut up, tell me I talk too much, come up with an excuse and tries to justify the behavior or simply ignore me all together.  I have the hardest time even trying to help her out. SO for example today I told her she should learn how to pay her bills online and she thought I was telling her that because I was tried of doing it for her which in part I am but I do it anyway. I told her it would make things easier for her and she would be able to pay the bills one time and I told her this mostly because I will not always be around to do it for her. Now back to the scripture.  In the New King James version in Ephesians 6:1-4 it talks about the family and how its suppose to be ran basically. So children are to obey and honor their parents because its right. Its just the right thing to do and paul reitterates thaat God commands us to do it.  Now when it comes to 6:4 “And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord” , paul is saying here that even though children are to obey their parents, you parents need not to provoke your kids to anger but bring them up in training and guidance or counsel of the Lord.  Now my mother has never been one to mention God to me in my past when it came to punishment or anything of the sort but what she is quick to do is push my buttons and she does it because she thinks thats the kind of authority she has.  But I do believe God has more authority and I do believe that is why the scripture says bring them up in training and admonition of the Lord because he is the end all say all.  I feel that parents should discipline their children but is a way that is fair and just with grace and mercy as the Lord shows us.  I think instead of looking to psychologists to find answers to how to approach your kids is necessary especially when as Christians clearly the first counselor is Christ and instead of turning to him and teaching the children about him parents get straight to the belt with no biblical way of teaching the child right from wrong.  Also there are those parents who just get a kick out of bugging their kids which sounds strange but I always thought my mom had it out for me lol. As sad as it sounds thats just how I felt and still feel sometimes.  The power she thinks she possesses does not belong to her it belongs to God and yes scripture does say if you spare the rod you spoil the child (Prov 13:24) and that he who loves his child will discipline him promptly BUT  Paul point out the right way to do so I think in Eph 6:4 which involves the Lord.  My mother is stubborn and very stuck in her ways and anything I come out and say to correct her simply goes straight in through one ear and out of the other and I am praying for her because right now she is repeating a vicious cycle of behavior that will only hurt her in the long run.  At times I do get discouraged as scripture points out the provoking can and will discourage children and thats kind of the truth for me. But that gives me all the more faith in Christ because I know that I have him to turn to at the end of it all and as for my mother all I can do is ray she gets out of her rut she is in and has been in for years. As much as I hate to admit it I think its a bitterness that lies within her that she needs to let go of but it won’t happen until she holds steadfast onto to God and she hasn’t been.  Please please please pray for me because I have been having a problem trying to keep from getting into it with ehr and I know I need to fall back and let God do his work but its hard and I am trying.

Scripture for the day:

Colossians 3:1-4  “If then you were raised with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ is, sitting at the right hand of God. Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth. For you died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. When Christ who is our life appears, then you also will appear with Him in glory.”

God bless=)

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