Lately I have been struggling with the problem of desiring things that stray me away from Christ and my walk in my my faith. I started going natural as are a lot of women these days but natural or permed it still takes a lot of work, time and money to maintain and because of that your work you do on your hair takes time ways from doing good works in your faith, takes ways time you should be spending growing in your faith and makes you spend spend spend while your money goes to waste on products that may or may not work instead of saving your money or using it for a good cause. Now, before I started writing this I had no idea how to describe what I and others like me were doing. And by the way, this does not only have to deal with hair alone; I’m talking about desiring what ever is outside of Christ; things that are mostly carnal and of this world. I was unsure of what I was going through until I came upon a sermon by John Piper and he said something that made me feel CONVICTED! He was talking about being consumed with things so much that it seems you are trying to fill a void when really we should be consumed in Christ! I was so sure that God wanted to be to hear that message and I took it to heart. Now that still didn’t stop me from desiring all that hair stuff or from being consumed in it. But I realized that all this consumption and desire was for were things of this world. Not to say that my hair is not mine and not on my head and I don’t need to take care of it for good hygiene’s sake but it was not and still isn’t necessary for me to be so into it like I am. Today as I was looking for answers to my problems I read scripture after scripture after scripture and each one was leading me right to the one I needed at that moment. I came upon an article or blog that gave me the very answer I was seeking and that is nothing but God showing me the truth! In this article the author describes how satin uses many things to deceive us. Even things we would never even think of. He used an example of a husband working long hours which barely gave him time for his wife and children. In this example a person’s job and desire for a large salary is satin’s way of keeping families broken a part. If the man in this example turned to Christ instead of his Job his family would not be so badly broken. It just shows how deceptive the devil is and how he can use anything and everything to try and turn one away from Christ and the things that are most important. Scripture tells us in James 1:15 that when we give in to our own desires, we sin as a result of it and sin brings for death. We cannot let the devil lead us away from Christ and that is what he has done to so many people for years and years. With technology, with clubs, with pornography, with capitalism, fashion and so much more. His goal is to keep us as far away from Christ as possible. If we allow him to do that we are allowing ourselves to be slaves to sin and also live a fast forgettable life that meant nothing.
Now, I mentioned filling a void and I just want to explain that because it might be confusing. When someone feels that they are lacking in some area of their life whether it be love or confidence or what have you, they turn to other outlets and allow those things to fill that empty space in their lives. If we call on Jesus he will always answer. You have to open your heart and know that Christ is all you need and He will fill every single crack in your life. I don’t mean give you material things but he will give a lift spiritually and mentally. Since God showed me all of this I have stopped sending in entries for the 31 haute days of hair contest where I could win a bunch of hair products because I realized I was letting it consume me. I have been wanting a hair steamer for a while now and this contest was one way could get it free so I was gonna try for that but it turned into me entering daily and I was getting upset because I missed a day which was crazy. Once again I just want to stress to you that you should be careful what you desiring or lusting after. 9 times out of 10 if it is not Christ its something that will bring you to sin.
Scripture of the day James 1: 13-14
13 Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am being tempted by God,” for God cannot be tempted with evil, and he himself tempts no one.14 But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire.
To the average women today they are on this “independent” status. But what about being on that 31 status? The status that Christian women try hard to uphold. There is no comparison to this woman; virtuous, kind, wise and her worth is far more than any diamonds rubies or pearls. Strength and honor are her clothing and she gives to those who are poor and to those who are in need. This woman takes care of her husband and her children and they honor her. Her husband trusts her with his heart and she does him no evil. Most of all she is God fearing(Proverbs 31:10-31) . Every women should know their worth and I feel that starts with accepting who you are. We were made along with men because God did not want man to be alone. We serve a purpose we are not
here just because God thought it would be cool for men to have a playmate. But God had a better plan. We are more than what men now a days plan to use us for. We are not sex objects or some guy’s weekend mistress. we are meant for much more. The first man we should ever fall in love with is God and second our husbands. We do not have to be married and for those who aren’t it is not a crisis. Maybe God wants you to focus on being a better you. He has greater plans for you and after all God is a jealous God and he provides for us in every single aspect of our lives and that includes love. So why then do some of us feel that we have to gain so much (unwanted) attention from men. I once heard a line out of a song by Lecrae that says “her self esteem is as low as her neck line”. First of all too many young ladies today lack confidence. He provides you with all the confidence you need and a if a man can’t look beyond your body to decide whether or not he wants to be with you then he is not worth your time or attention. Now there are plenty of other things that a Proverbs 31 woman deals with aside from a man. We should not be too focused on our outward appearance or anyone else’s for that matter. A lot of us wear makeup and spend a lot of time on our hair and some women spend way too much time in the gym trying to make sure she doesn’t gain an ounce because she has to maintain a beach body all year around. Some women even go through with plastic surgery to permanently get rid of flaws because they don’t want to live with the fact that no once is perfect. Some girls fool people with a pretty face but her attitude and personality sucks. Now, I’m not saying don’t do your makeup and don’t do your hair and don’t work out or anything like that but what I am saying is that our outward appearance is not our number priority nor should it be our main focus. Jesus is the most important thing in a Proverbs 31 woman’s life. Is makeup, hair, looks, finding men, or anything else that we consume ourselves with more important than our lord and savior? I think not. Just look at what he has done for us. His father crushed him! He died on a cross for our sins and how do we repay him? By staring at ourselves in the mirror and worrying about what we are going to wear to impress the person and that person and basically just thinking about ourselves. How can we be so vain? Especially when we know that this man put himself out of the picture when he saved our lives. We should be praying and fasting and living according to our heavenly father’s word with Jesus as our prime example. A proverbs 31 woman lives her life with such virtue and love. She is not a woman of the world but a women of God. She speaks ill of no one, slow to anger and she is always willing to give. She is unashamed and not easily deceived by anyone. She respects her family, friends and herself. A Proverbs 31 woman should know her worth and should always be modest. I believe that every women who is struggling to uphold this status must meditate on the word of God and must trust in the lord and give her troubles to God to make sure she keeps her dignity and her head to the heavens. Scripture of the day: Proverbs 31: 30-31
30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,
And let her own works praise her in the gates.
So as Christians we are not suppose to be hesitant to give or share for that matter. But lately its like I have been allowing myself to fall into mood where I feel like my money is mine and I want to do what I want with it and when I get money I usually call it mine! especially if I get it for my birthday or something like that. So the most recent situation that happened was that I got money for babysitting yesterday and My aunt gave me money for my birthday. I know my fiance needed money to pay a couple of his bills and I told him I would give him my baby sitting money to help him out. I originally told him that I would pay the bill for him since he didn’t have the money. I realize that as a soon to be married couple we really have to start getting used to the act of splitting everything 50/50. So I gave him some of my birthday money on top of the babysitting money and I know I should not be holding dear to my money but I started feeling a little upset afterward that I gave away most of the money I received. I think part of the reason I don’t like giving it away is because I feel like I’m not going to have any left for my own use and I don’t have job to make the money back and my fiance doesn’t always have money to give me because he has bills to pay and I technically don’t lol. So I am working on saving the money I do have because most times i don’t need to spend I just want things and if I have the money I get it. But it doesn’t always have to be that way and lately that has been my biggest issue. I need to pray about it because I cannot go on buying things that I do not need; its not wise. As far as giving goes we should always give to those who ask and if someone needs to borrow something we are not suppose to turn them away (Matt:5:42). What that means is that we should not hesitate to give to those who are in need. Even if we assume they may not need it for a good reason we should still be kind and give from our hearts. Even though I know this, I still have to bare with my fiance and others because they may need it more than I do and I know I don’t have bills to pay. I know if I needed the money my fiance would give it to me but I may want things that he may not want to give me money for which is why I prefer to keep money in my account for small purchases every now and then. My point is that no matte what we should never hesitate to give or hold on to money as if our lives depend on it because it doesn’t. Jesus is what our lives are about and money is just something we need to get by but we should not forget that God is our #1 provider.
Scripture for today: II Corinthians 9:7 So let each one give as he purposes in his heart, not grudgingly or of necessity; for God loves a cheerful giver.